Saturday, June 6, 2009

friend or foe??

so I talked about bad influences, and I forgot to mention something very important, that I, myself have experienced. So you took the influence test and your friends seemed to have passed, they are most likely friends who seem to be good influences, that don't curse or follow the world, but how do they treat you??? Are they the type of friend that you seem to always have to bring up, the type of friend that always says "ohhh i look so baddd" just to get a compliment out of you? or ALWAYS seems to be in some sort of dramatic situation with all their other friends and most likely you every now and again? I've noticed this in some people and also have been stuck in these situation or have been THAT type of friend. ITS AWEFUL GET YOURSELF OUT OF THAT FRIENDSHIP! they don't build you up, they emotionally drain and stress you! They aren't their for you when you need them but always seem to call you when THEY need help. Or how about how draining it gets to compliment every little thing they do JUST so they don't get upset with you or mad at you because they seem to get mad at everything and anything you say. they say things like "i didnt do anything why are you being mean???" (just because at that second you wanted to be lifted up rather than lifting them up) or "why do you always give me attitude??" when you KNOW you haven't done anything. or if every 5 seconds they say "are you getting annoyed with me" it an attention strive that "high" looking for. maybe they didn't get it as kids so don't be harsh on them when they act this way, just get out of that friendship. You will emotionally burn out and see negative changes in yourself, most likely not as happy as usual. Christian, or not, people still try to take advantage of people. and if you notice these qualities in your friends it may be time to find some better, more uplifting friends that will help you grow spiritually. Try to be a mentor to those friends who have lost their way, but certainly dont stress over making sure they feel good when they never spend time on you. Oh and one last thing, if you notice you do thise, you try to get attention or get comments out of your friends 24/7 or always seem to be in a fight with some one or always have drama going on, or if people just dont seem to want to be around you that much, it may be YOU not them so take a step back and take a quick personality check, ive had to do this many times, and maybe you didnt start that way but eventually grow into this person, make sure you try your best to do what Jesus would, it wont change over night but God sees the effort. I just thought I'd add that into the friends subject.
love you guys
cassie =)

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